Role Reversal

family-cataract “Try to understand men. If you understand each other you will be kind to each other. Knowing a man well never leads to hate and almost always leads to love.”
― John Steinbeck

It is funny that how I started staying home with my kids, was a disagreement my wife and I had about who had it easier.  We both thought we had it harder than the other. Both of us felt the other wasn’t giving enough credit for what we did. So I had reached a point at my job that I quit and we switched roles.  We both saw the other side of the coin.  Though with all its trials, I loved staying home with the kids. So even though it was intended to be a temporary thing, it turned into a permanent thing.

 After our third child, there would be days my wife would come home and all I would do was walk out and get in vehicle and go get a coffee. I wouldn’t be gone long, but just long enough to go to Quiktrip and get a coffee and breathe, then come back to start again. I think that is how my association to coffee and relaxing came about.  That would only happen on the days that the kids really pushed me. It also taught me to pay attention to needing breaks.  Taking a break allows you to function better. That is where I really respect a single parent, because they don’t always have a way to tag out to breathe.


“It is not easy in this world for one person to understand the next one.”
― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

There have been various role reversals over the years of our marriage. We will be celebrating 21 years on June 18th.   There have been reversals of noticing she was feeling left out and making her more a part of the kids life.  She joined the kids in karate class and got to bond with them that way, and we switched the way we did birthdays a little so it was fair to us both.

The most recent role reversal is the experience of me working a lot and her feeling the distance from that.  See I always hate year end because I lose my wife, especially during January because she works, comes home and works again.  Though it is better than years ago without remote access, where she did all that time at her office. So recently with me putting a lot of time in with work, she made the comment last night “So this is what it feels like”.   Like Sunday night while playing games, she wanted to be close to me because she hadn’t really gotten time with me.


“Walk with me for a while, my friend—you in my shoes, I in yours—and then let us talk.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich

Sometimes role reversals, even for a short bit, is a good thing. It allows the other person to walk a little in the other’s shoes. It brings a little more understanding and respect.  We can get into a comfortable spot in our relationships and start just expecting things from our partners. We expect they’ll just take care of things, things will just work out, or they should just understand.  We forget the heart and mind work differently. The head might understand something but the heart may see it differently.  Which is why it is good to have those reminders.

I also found it funny, because instead of me being the one wanting her to take a break or slow down, it was her wanting me to do so. It was her telling me I should do this or that, etc. I’m so thankful for role reversals they teach us lessons we may not learn otherwise, and give us that moment to walk a mile in another’s shoes.  Which in turn teaches us a little more understanding and respect for others.

Today I’m thankful for those lessons that help us understand others better.

Thank you for your time. I hope you have a great day.

“I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.”
― Abraham Lincoln


“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross


‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ – 13 ways to show love….


Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.
Ann Landers

I am apologizing in advance do to the length this post ended up being. It is probably one of the longest posts I have made. As stated below you can skip to the list below I created if you wish. Just look for back to biscuits. Also skimming is allowed. 🙂  LOL.  Have a great day. 

It‭ ‬interests‭ ‬me‭ ‬how‭ ‬many‭ ‬people‭ ‬pass‭ ‬judgement‭ ‬on‭ ‬another.‭ ‬This‭ ‬is‭ ‬a‭ ‬human‭ ‬trait‭ ‬that‭ ‬has‭ ‬been‭ ‬with‭ ‬us‭ ‬probably‭ ‬from‭ ‬our‭ ‬beginnings.‭ ‬We‭ ‬pass‭ ‬judgement‭ ‬on‭ ‬a‭ ‬person‭’‬s‭ ‬clothes,‭ ‬speech,‭ ‬job,‭ ‬and‭ ‬etc.‭ ‬Now‭ ‬this‭ ‬blog‭ ‬is‭ ‬not‭ ‬about‭ ‬judgement,‭ ‬but‭ ‬more‭over ‬lack‭ ‬of‭ ‬it.‭ ‬You‭ ‬see,‭ ‬the‭ ‬first‭ ‬thing‭ ‬you‭ ‬find‭ ‬about‭ ‬love‭ ‬is that‭ ‬it‭ ‬is‭ ‬free‭ ‬of‭ ‬judgement,‭ ‬free‭ ‬of‭ ‬expectation,‭ ‬or‭ ‬any‭ ‬of‭ ‬the‭ ‬normal‭ ‬pitfalls‭ ‬we‭ ‬have‭ ‬as‭ ‬humans.

Also,‭ ‬this‭ ‬particular‭ ‬blog‭ ‬entry‭ ‬may‭ ‬reference‭ ‬a‭ ‬higher‭ ‬power‭ ‬and‭ ‬touch‭ ‬on‭ ‬some‭ ‬of‭ ‬my‭ ‬views‭ ‬and‭ ‬even‭ ‬beliefs.‭ ‬This‭ ‬is‭ ‬not‭ ‬my‭ ‬way‭ ‬to‭ ‬change‭ ‬you.‭ ‬For‭ ‬love‭ ‬is‭ ‬also‭ ‬acceptance.‭ ‬I‭ ‬accept‭ ‬you‭ ‬are‭ ‬the‭ ‬way‭ ‬you‭ ‬are,‭ ‬and‭ ‬I‭ ‬am‭ ‬the‭ ‬way‭ ‬I‭ ‬am.‭ ‬I‭ ‬see‭ ‬it‭ ‬as‭ ‬God‭ ‬puts‭ ‬us‭ ‬all‭ ‬on‭ ‬particular‭ ‬paths‭ ‬for‭ ‬the‭ ‬possibility‭ ‬to‭ ‬learn‭ ‬and‭ ‬expand‭ ‬ourselves.‭ ‬I‭ ‬say‭ ‬possibility,‭ ‬because‭ ‬of‭ ‬course‭ ‬we‭ ‬have‭ ‬to‭ ‬choose‭ ‬to‭ ‬see‭ ‬those‭ ‬moments‭ ‬and‭ ‬reasons‭ ‬for‭ ‬the‭ ‬particular‭ ‬path.  ‭ ‬Though‭ ‬love‭ ‬is‭ ‬acceptance‭ ‬and‭ ‬lacks‭ ‬judgement. ‭ ‬Most‭ ‬religions‭ ‬would‭ ‬agree‭ ‬with‭ ‬these‭ ‬basic‭ ‬premises‭ ‬to‭ ‬love.‭ ‬Christianity‭ ‬states‭ ‬judgement‭ ‬is‭ ‬for‭ ‬God‭ ‬alone.‭ ‬Part‭ ‬of‭ ‬this‭ ‬is‭ ‬because‭ ‬judgement‭ ‬hinders‭ ‬love‭ ‬and‭ ‬love‭ ‬is‭ ‬the‭ ‬greatest‭ ‬commandment‭ ‬given.


“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
― Martin Luther King Jr

You‭ ‬can‭ ‬always‭ ‬skip‭ ‬to‭ ‬the‭ ‬list‭ ‬below‭ ‬if‭ ‬you‭ ‬do‭ ‬not‭ ‬wish‭ ‬to‭ ‬read‭ ‬the‭ ‬following‭ ‬that‭ ‬gives‭ ‬a‭ ‬base‭ ‬of‭ ‬the‭ ‬list‭ ‬by‭ ‬talking‭ ‬about‭ ‬me‭ ‬a‭ ‬little.

Before‭ ‬we‭ ‬go‭ ‬forward‭ ‬even‭ ‬further,‭ ‬I‭ ‬guess‭ ‬I‭ ‬should‭ ‬state‭ ‬a‭ ‬few‭ ‬of‭ ‬my‭ ‬views,‭ ‬then‭ ‬we‭ ‬will‭ ‬get‭ ‬into‭ ‬a‭ ‬bit‭ ‬of‭ ‬a‭ ‬list‭ ‬on‭ ‬showing‭ ‬love.‭ ‬I‭ ‬rarely‭ ‬talk‭ ‬about‭ ‬how‭ ‬I‭ ‬see‭ ‬the‭ ‬world.‭ ‬Sometimes‭ ‬people‭ ‬get‭ ‬snippets‭ ‬but‭ ‬I‭ ‬find‭ ‬stating‭ ‬my‭ ‬beliefs‭ ‬can‭ ‬hinder‭ ‬people‭ ‬being‭ ‬open,‭ ‬even within‭ ‬the‭ ‬Christian‭ ‬realm‭ ‬of‭ ‬thought.‭ ‬This‭ ‬happens‭ ‬partially‭ ‬because‭ ‬of‭ ‬fear‭ ‬of‭ ‬judgement,‭ ‬as‭ ‬well‭ ‬as‭ ‬judgement‭ ‬from‭ ‬the‭ ‬person‭ ‬speaking‭ ‬making‭ ‬assumptions‭ ‬to‭ ‬how‭ ‬one‭ ‬would‭ ‬react. ‭ ‬So,‭ ‬this‭ ‬is‭ ‬one‭ ‬of‭ ‬those‭ ‬rare‭ ‬times‭ ‬that‭ ‬I‭ ‬will‭ ‬give‭ ‬you‭ ‬a‭ ‬little‭ ‬snippet‭ ‬of‭ ‬my‭ ‬views‭ ‬before‭ ‬I‭ ‬proceed. Not‭ ‬so‭ ‬you‭ ‬can‭ ‬judge‭ ‬me,‭ ‬but‭ ‬so‭ ‬you‭ ‬can‭ ‬understand‭ ‬me‭ ‬and‭ ‬understand‭ ‬the‭ ‬list‭ ‬that‭ ‬follows‭ ‬possibly‭ ‬better.

First,‭ ‬my‭ ‬beliefs‭ ‬are‭ ‬ever-evolving.‭ ‬I‭ ‬do‭ ‬not‭ ‬believe‭ ‬any‭ ‬person‭ ‬is‭ ‬actually‭ ‬a‭ ‬particular‭ ‬faith‭ ‬or‭ ‬denomination,‭ ‬but‭ ‬a‭ ‬culmination‭ ‬of‭ ‬life‭ ‬experience,‭ ‬faith,‭ ‬learning,‭ ‬and‭ ‬interactions‭ ‬with‭ ‬others.


“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.”
― Dalai Lama XIV

I‭ ‬have‭ ‬said‭ ‬from‭ ‬an‭ ‬early‭ ‬age‭ ‬that‭ ‬I‭ ‬was‭ ‬my‭ ‬own‭ ‬faith.‭ ‬Back‭ ‬then,‭ ‬that‭ ‬meant‭ ‬any‭ ‬particular‭ ‬denomination‭ ‬of‭ ‬Christianity‭ ‬because‭ ‬my‭ ‬scope‭ ‬of‭ ‬the‭ ‬world‭ ‬was‭ ‬limited.‭ ‬Now,‭ ‬I‭ ‬truly‭ ‬mean‭ ‬my‭ ‬own‭ ‬faith‭ ‬in‭ ‬general. ‭ T‬his‭ ‬would‭ ‬include‭ ‬out‭ ‬of‭ ‬various‭ ‬faiths.‭ ‬I‭ ‬was‭ ‬very‭ ‬heavily‭ ‬Christian‭ ‬when‭ ‬I‭ ‬was‭ ‬young‭ ‬and‭ ‬a‭ ‬conservative‭ ‬Christian,‭ ‬which‭ ‬might‭ ‬surprise‭ ‬some‭ ‬that‭ ‬know‭ ‬me‭ ‬now.‭ ‬I‭ ‬grew‭ ‬up‭ ‬Southern‭ ‬Freewill‭ ‬Baptist‭ ‬and‭ ‬Seventh‭ ‬Day‭ ‬Adventist.‭ ‬I‭ ‬spent‭ ‬at‭ ‬least‭ ‬2‭ ‬years‭ ‬in‭ ‬Seventh‭ ‬Day‭ A‬dventist‭ ‬church‭ ‬school, and went‭ ‬to‭ ‬several‭ ‬seminars‭ ‬on‭ ‬various‭ ‬biblical‭ ‬subjects,‭ ‬including‭ ‬an‭ ‬enlightening‭ ‬Daniel‭ ‬and‭ ‬Revelations‭ ‬seminar.

When‭ ‬I‭ ‬was‭ ‬an‭ ‬older‭ ‬teenager‭ ‬and‭ ‬young‭ ‬adult‭ ‬I‭ ‬searched‭ ‬out‭ ‬other‭ ‬denominations‭ ‬of‭ ‬Christianity‭ ‬and‭ ‬learned‭ ‬various‭ ‬views‭ ‬they‭ ‬had. ‭ ‬There‭ ‬can‭ ‬be‭ ‬quite‭ ‬a‭ ‬bit‭ ‬of‭ ‬diversity‭ ‬even‭ ‬within‭ ‬one‭ ‬faith.‭ ‬Though‭ ‬I‭ ‬parted‭ ‬with‭ ‬Christianity‭ ‬after‭ ‬my‭ ‬wife‭ ‬became‭ ‬pregnant‭ ‬and‭ ‬there‭ ‬were‭ ‬issues‭ ‬that‭ ‬arose‭ ‬from‭ ‬that‭ ‬interaction.‭ ‬Just‭ ‬so‭ ‬you‭ ‬may‭ ‬have‭ ‬the‭ ‬knee‭ ‬jerk‭ ‬reaction‭ ‬if‭ ‬you‭ ‬wish,‭ ‬my‭ ‬wife‭ ‬was‭ ‬16‭ ‬and‭ ‬I‭ ‬was‭ ‬20.‭ ‬We‭ ‬were‭ ‬dating‭ ‬and‭ ‬had‭ ‬always‭ ‬talked‭ ‬about‭ ‬getting‭ ‬married‭ ‬when‭ ‬she‭ ‬got‭ ‬older.‭ ‬Well,‭ ‬she‭ ‬became‭ ‬pregnant‭ ‬and‭ ‬we‭ ‬got‭ ‬married,‭ ‬but‭ ‬because‭ ‬of‭ ‬love,‭ ‬not‭ ‬because‭ ‬of‭ ‬a‭ ‬child.‭ ‬Though‭ ‬as‭ ‬you‭ ‬might‭ ‬foresee,‭ ‬this‭ ‬could‭ draw ‬issue with some religious folk.‭ H‬er‭ ‬pastor‭ ‬friend‭ ‬married‭ ‬us‭ ‬in‭ ‬the‭ ‬woods‭ ‬where‭ ‬a‭ ‬fork‭ ‬in‭ ‬a‭ ‬creek‭ ‬came‭ ‬together.‭ ‬Yeah,‭ ‬I‭ ‬like‭ ‬symbolism‭ ‬sometimes.‭ ‬:‭) My wife and daughter just took a hike at the place where we got married and she sent me a picture via text of the fork. That spot where she proved she was crazy by saying “I do”.


“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
― Laozi

So‭ ‬why‭ ‬that‭ ‬story…‭ W‬ell,‭ ‬that‭ ‬parting‭ ‬with‭ ‬Christianity‭ ‬is‭ ‬what‭ ‬caused‭ ‬the‭ ‬journey‭ ‬that‭ ‬brought‭ ‬me‭ ‬to‭ ‬where‭ ‬I‭ ‬am‭ ‬now.‭ ‬I‭ ‬should‭ ‬say‭ ‬that‭ ‬I‭ ‬parted‭ ‬ways‭ ‬with‭ ‬the‭ ‬institution‭ ‬that‭ ‬was‭ ‬Christianity,‭ ‬not‭ ‬the‭ ‬lessons‭ ‬of‭ ‬Christ‭ ‬or‭ ‬God.‭ ‬I‭ ‬just‭ ‬had‭ ‬an‭ ‬issue‭ ‬with‭ ‬his‭ ‬groupies.‭ (‬I‭ ‬stole‭ ‬that‭ ‬last‭ ‬line‭ ‬from‭ ‬a‭ ‬movie,‭ ‬just‭ ‬in‭ ‬a‭ ‬paraphrased‭ ‬form.)

Jesus was a country boy – Clay Walker

I‭ ‬took‭ ‬time‭ ‬learning‭ ‬a‭ ‬little‭ ‬of‭ ‬various‭ ‬religions.‭ ‬You‭ ‬find‭ ‬interesting‭ ‬similarities‭ ‬between‭ ‬the‭ different ‬religions.‭ ‬One‭ ‬thing‭ ‬that‭ ‬is‭ ‬quite‭ ‬common‭ ‬between‭ ‬them,‭ ‬is‭ ‬the‭ ‬ideal‭ ‬of‭ ‬Love. ‭ ‬I‭ ‬keep‭ ‬trying‭ ‬right‭ ‬now to avoid‭ ‬getting‭ ‬into‭ ‬the‭ ‬technical‭ ‬stuff‭ ‬of‭ ‬the‭ ‬religions,‭ ‬like‭ ‬how‭ ‬some‭ ‬share‭ ‬similar‭ ‬bases,‭ ‬etc.‭ ‬So‭ ‬excuse‭ ‬if‭ ‬I‭ ‬slip. ‭ ‬Though‭ ‬in‭ ‬my‭ ‬exploration,‭ ‬I‭ ‬found‭ ‬a‭ ‬religion‭ ‬that‭ ‬spoke‭ ‬to‭ ‬me‭ ‬very‭ ‬much.


“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”

― Dr. Seuss, Happy Birthday to You!

Think‭ ‬of‭ ‬it‭ ‬as‭ ‬God‭ ‬saying‭ “‬here‭ ‬is‭ ‬where‭ ‬you‭ ‬are‭ ‬suppose‭ ‬to‭ ‬be”.‭ ‬See‭ ‬I‭ ‬follow‭ ‬where‭ ‬my‭ ‬heart‭ ‬leads‭ ‬me,‭ ‬where‭ ‬my‭ ‬inner‭ ‬voice‭ ‬tells‭ ‬me‭ ‬to‭ ‬go.‭ ‬I‭ ‬have‭ ‬learned‭ ‬to‭ ‬trust‭ ‬that‭ ‬feeling‭ ‬that‭ ‬compels‭ ‬me‭ ‬to‭ ‬do‭ ‬things‭ ‬or‭ ‬go‭ ‬certain‭ ‬directions.‭ ‬Anyway,‭ ‬I‭ ‬found‭ ‬Buddhism,‭ ‬which‭ ‬some‭ ‬would‭ ‬argue‭ ‬is‭ ‬more‭ ‬philosophy‭ ‬than‭ ‬religion,‭ ‬which‭ ‬is‭ ‬fine.‭ ‬The‭ ‬other‭ ‬thing‭ ‬about‭ ‬the‭ ‬middle‭ ‬way,‭ ‬there‭ ‬was‭ ‬no‭ ‬need‭ ‬to‭ ‬give‭ ‬up‭ ‬my‭ ‬belief‭ ‬in‭ ‬a‭ ‬higher‭ ‬power‭ ‬or‭ ‬change‭ ‬sides.‭ ‬Also‭ ‬Buddhism‭ ‬is‭ ‬very‭ ‬similar‭ ‬to‭ ‬Christianity‭ ‬in‭ ‬many‭ ‬of‭ ‬its‭ ‬beliefs,‭ ‬even‭ ‬if‭ ‬possibly‭ ‬said‭ ‬in‭ ‬a‭ ‬slightly‭ ‬different‭ ‬way.

Buddhism‭ ‬actually‭ ‬made‭ ‬a‭ ‬big‭ ‬change‭ ‬in‭ ‬me. ‭ ‬I‭ ‬think‭ ‬one‭ ‬of‭ ‬the‭ ‬other‭ ‬beauties‭ ‬was‭ ‬I‭ ‬learned‭ ‬much‭ ‬of‭ ‬it‭ ‬from‭ ‬books,‭ ‬and‭ ‬thus‭ ‬could‭ ‬learn‭ ‬it‭ ‬first from‭ ‬a‭ ‬somewhat‭ ‬scientific‭ ‬approach.‭ ‬Also,‭ ‬that‭ ‬meant‭ ‬I‭ ‬did‭ ‬not‭ ‬have‭ ‬the‭ ‬judgement‭ ‬of‭ ‬their‭ ‬groupies,‭ ‬either‭ ‬me‭ ‬judging‭ ‬them‭ ‬or‭ ‬them‭ ‬I. ‭ ‬So‭ ‬this‭ ‬was‭ ‬a‭ ‬perfect‭ ‬fit.‭ ‬I‭ ‬also‭ ‬firmly‭ ‬believe‭ ‬that‭ ‬I‭ ‬was‭ ‬directed‭ ‬to‭ ‬that‭ ‬path,‭ ‬because‭ ‬Buddhism‭ ‬was‭ ‬part‭ ‬of‭ ‬my‭ ‬life‭ ‬for‭ ‬many‭ ‬years.‭ ‬Buddha‭ ‬simply‭ ‬means‭ ‬enlightened‭ ‬one. Siddhartha‭ ‬was‭ ‬believed‭ ‬to‭ ‬be‭ ‬the‭ ‬first‭ ‬Buddha‭ ‬and‭ ‬the‭ ‬basis‭ ‬that‭ ‬Buddhism‭ ‬grew‭ ‬from. ‭ ‬If‭ ‬you‭ ‬were‭ ‬wondering‭ ‬how‭ ‬it‭ ‬would‭ ‬not‭ ‬conflict‭ ‬in‭ ‬my‭ ‬belief‭ ‬in‭ ‬God. I make this clarification because some think Buddha is Buddhism’s god but that is not true.


Mental prayer in my opinion is nothing else than an intimate sharing between friends; it means taking time frequently to be alone with Him who we know loves us. The important thing is not to think much but to love much and so do that which best stirs you to love. Love is not great delight but desire to please God in everything.
Saint Teresa of Avila

Then‭ ‬I‭ ‬guess‭ ‬when‭ ‬God‭ ‬thought‭ ‬it‭ ‬was‭ ‬time‭ ‬for‭ ‬me‭ ‬to‭ ‬remove‭ ‬the‭ ‬last‭ ‬jading‭ ‬I‭ ‬had‭ ‬of‭ ‬his‭ ‬groupies.‭ ‬He‭ ‬lead‭ ‬me‭ ‬to‭ ‬a‭ ‬place‭ ‬that‭ ‬I‭ ‬care‭ ‬a‭ ‬great‭ ‬deal‭ ‬about‭ ‬now.‭ ‬He‭ ‬lead‭ ‬me‭ ‬to‭ ‬a‭ ‬job‭ ‬at‭ ‬a‭ ‬church. ‭ ‬Irony‭ ‬abounds‭ ‬in‭ ‬the‭ ‬fact‭ ‬that‭ ‬the‭ ‬denomination‭ ‬of‭ ‬the‭ ‬church‭ ‬was‭ ‬the‭ ‬same‭ ‬denomination‭ ‬of‭ ‬the‭ ‬church‭ ‬that‭ ‬had‭ ‬put‭ ‬me‭ ‬on‭ ‬my‭ journey‬.‭ ‬Though‭ ‬the‭ ‬other‭ ‬beauty‭ ‬was‭ ‬the‭ ‬position‭ ‬is‭ ‬of‭ ‬course‭ ‬custodian.‭ ‬No‭ ‬position‭ ‬of‭ ‬great‭ ‬importance‭ ‬other‭ ‬than‭ ‬to‭ ‬make‭ ‬sure‭ ‬the‭ ‬church‭ ‬always‭ ‬looks‭ ‬good.‭ ‬The‭ ‬other‭ ‬humor‭ ‬is‭ ‬the‭ ‬position‭ ‬in‭ ‬some‭ ‬ways‭ ‬matches‭ ‬Buddhism‭ ‬but‭ ‬I‭ ‬am‭ ‬getting‭ ‬off ‭ ‬track. ‭ ‬The‭ ‬position‭ ‬allowed‭ ‬me‭ ‬to‭ ‬get‭ ‬to‭ ‬know‭ ‬the‭ ‬people‭ ‬of‭ ‬the‭ ‬church.‭ ‬It‭ ‬allowed‭ ‬me‭ ‬to‭ ‬get‭ ‬to‭ ‬know‭ ‬those‭ ‬behind‭ ‬the‭ ‬scenes‭ ‬and‭ ‬see‭ ‬all‭ ‬the‭ ‬good‭ ‬his‭ ‬groupies‭ ‬did.‭ ‬I‭ ‬use‭ ‬groupies‭ ‬this‭ ‬time‭ ‬in‭ ‬a‭ ‬loving‭ ‬fashion‭ ‬and‭ ‬mean‭ ‬absolutely‭ ‬no‭ ‬offense‭ ‬in‭ ‬the‭ ‬word. The people that work at the church are some amazing people and I am very proud to have met them and gotten to know a little about them along my journey.

So‭ ‬after‭ ‬my‭ ‬journey‭ ‬that‭ ‬spanned‭ ‬many‭ ‬years,‭ ‬I‭ ‬found‭ ‬myself‭ ‬falling‭ ‬in‭ ‬love‭ ‬with‭ ‬the‭ ‬people‭ ‬of‭ ‬the‭ ‬church‭ ‬again.‭ ‬Though‭ ‬this‭ ‬time‭ ‬I‭ ‬was‭ ‬not‭ ‬a‭ ‬hot‭ ‬headed,‭ ‬self‭ ‬focused‭ ‬kid‭ ‬with‭ ‬strong‭ ‬opinions.‭ ‬This‭ ‬time‭ ‬I‭ ‬had‭ ‬been‭ ‬softened‭ ‬by‭ ‬time‭ ‬and‭ ‬my‭ ‬journey.‭ ‬I‭ ‬had‭ ‬learned‭ ‬how‭ ‬to‭ ‬truly‭ ‬love‭ ‬people‭ ‬and‭ ‬see‭ ‬everything‭ ‬as‭ ‬connected. ‭ ‬God‭ ‬had‭ ‬sent‭ ‬me‭ ‬on‭ ‬a‭ ‬journey‭ ‬so‭ ‬I‭ ‬might‭ ‬first‭ ‬learn‭ ‬myself‭ ‬and‭ ‬love.‭ ‬He‭ ‬taught‭ ‬me‭ ‬his‭ ‬lessons‭ ‬through‭ ‬a‭ ‬different‭ ‬religion‭ ‬that‭ ‬happened‭ ‬to‭ ‬share‭ ‬many‭ ‬traits‭ with ‬Christianity. ‭ ‬So,‭ ‬you‭ ‬see‭ ‬to‭ ‬me‭ ‬it‭ ‬does‭ ‬not‭ ‬matter‭ ‬what‭ ‬religion‭ ‬you‭ ‬are‭ ‬as‭ ‬a‭ ‬reader.‭ ‬You,‭ ‬in‭ ‬my‭ ‬eyes,‭ ‬are‭ ‬a‭ ‬child‭ ‬of‭ ‬God‭ ‬no‭ ‬matter‭ ‬your‭ ‬faith‭ ‬and‭ ‬that‭ ‬makes‭ ‬you‭ ‬beautiful or if you prefer, a fellow human deserving of my respect and you are beautiful.


“A person’s a person, no matter how small.”
― Dr. Seuss, Horton Hears a Who!


See,‭ ‬I‭ ‬learned‭ ‬true‭ ‬love‭ ‬makes‭ ‬no‭ ‬judgement.‭ ‬It‭ ‬offers‭ ‬up‭ ‬its‭ ‬hand‭ ‬and‭ ‬only‭ ‬wishes‭ ‬you‭ ‬to‭ ‬take‭ ‬it. ‭ ‬I‭ ‬taught‭ ‬my‭ ‬kids‭ ‬not‭ ‬to‭ ‬see‭ ‬color,‭ ‬religion,‭ ‬or‭ ‬sexuality.‭ ‬They‭ ‬are‭ ‬to‭ ‬see‭ ‬the‭ ‬human‭ ‬that‭ ‬exists‭ ‬before‭ ‬them,‭ ‬and‭ ‬that person is‭ ‬deserving‭ ‬of‭ ‬love‭ ‬and‭ ‬acceptance. ‭ ‬Whether‭ ‬their‭ ‬clothes‭ ‬are‭ ‬tattered‭ ‬and‭ ‬torn‭ ‬or‭ ‬they‭ ‬are‭ ‬wearing‭ ‬the‭ ‬best‭ ‬suit‭ ‬available.‭ ‬They‭ ‬are‭ ‬a‭ ‬human‭ ‬and‭ ‬deserve‭ ‬love‭ ‬and‭ ‬an‭ ‬offer‭ ‬of‭ ‬help‭ ‬if‭ ‬they‭ ‬need‭ ‬it. ‭ ‬If‭ my children ‬are‭ ‬judged‭ ‬by‭ ‬someone,‭ ‬that‭ ‬is‭ ‬that‭ ‬persons‭ ‬issue,‭ ‬not‭ my child’s ‬issue. ‭ ‬As‭ ‬one‭ ‬of‭ ‬the‭ ‬magnets‭ ‬on‭ ‬my‭ ‬fridge‭ ‬says‭ “‬how‭ ‬people‭ ‬treat‭ ‬you‭ ‬is‭ ‬their‭ ‬karma‭; ‬how‭ ‬your‭ ‬react‭ ‬is‭ ‬yours‭”‬.

So‭ ‬my‭ ‬beliefs‭ ‬come‭ ‬from‭ ‬my‭ ‬journey‭ ‬and‭ ‬I‭ ‬am‭ ‬my‭ ‬own‭ ‬faith‭ ‬or‭ ‬religion.‭ ‬I‭ ‬may‭ ‬lean‭ ‬towards‭ ‬one‭ ‬particular‭ ‬flavor‭ ‬or‭ ‬another,‭ ‬but‭ ‬I‭ ‬may‭ ‬not‭ ‬hold‭ ‬all‭ ‬the‭ ‬ideals‭ ‬presented‭ ‬by‭ ‬that‭ ‬particular‭ ‬leaning.‭ ‬I‭ ‬also‭ ‬believe‭ ‬everyone‭ ‬falls‭ ‬into‭ ‬this‭ ‬state.‭ ‬You‭ ‬can‭ ‬say‭ ‬you‭ ‬are‭ ‬a‭ C‬hristian,‭ J‬ew,‭ M‬uslim,‭ ‬or‭ ‬whatever‭ ‬but‭ ‬other‭ ‬than‭ ‬those‭ ‬that‭ ‬started‭ ‬the‭ ‬particular‭ ‬faiths‭ ‬or‭ ‬denominations,‭ ‬the‭ ‬rest‭ ‬I‭ ‬believe‭ ‬just‭ ‬lean‭ ‬towards‭ ‬that‭ ‬faith‭ ‬or‭ ‬denomination.  ‭ ‬Part‭ ‬of‭ ‬it‭ ‬is‭ ‬because‭ ‬we‭ ‬all‭ ‬interpret‭ ‬things‭ ‬differently,‭ ‬even‭ ‬holy‭ ‬texts‭ ‬of‭ ‬our‭ ‬faiths.  ‭ ‬I‭ ‬also‭ ‬believe‭ ‬that‭ ‬many‭ ‬religions‭ ‬do‭ ‬quite‭ ‬a‭ ‬bit‭ ‬of‭ ‬good in the world.


“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.”
― Desmond Tutu

Anyway,‭ ‬I‭ ‬have‭ ‬rambled‭ ‬enough‭ ‬on‭ ‬the‭ ‬base.‭ ‬I‭ ‬will‭ ‬say‭ ‬this,‭ ‬I‭ ‬have‭ ‬always‭ ‬had‭ ‬a‭ ‬faith‭ ‬in‭ ‬something‭ ‬beyond‭ ‬us.‭ ‬In‭ a ‬God,‭ ‬though‭ ‬I‭ ‬am‭ ‬not‭ ‬quite‭ ‬sure‭ ‬the‭ ‬term‭ “‬he”‭ ‬is‭ ‬the‭ ‬right‭ ‬terminology‭ ‬but‭ ‬it‭ ‬is‭ ‬what‭ ‬I‭ ‬was‭ ‬raised‭ ‬with‭ ‬and‭ ‬thus‭ ‬what‭ ‬I‭ ‬am‭ ‬comfortable‭ ‬using.‭ ‬Only‭ ‬because‭ ‬I‭ ‬believe‭ ‬God‭ ‬is‭ ‬greater‭ ‬than‭ ‬any‭ ‬gender,‭ ‬or‭ ‬for‭ ‬that‭ ‬matter‭ ‬faith.‭ ‬I‭ ‬think‭ ‬he‭ ‬uses‭ ‬everything‭ ‬in‭ ‬his‭ ‬design‭ ‬to‭ ‬accomplish‭ ‬things.

three wooden crosses – randy travis

I love the parables of Christ, my favourite Parable of Christ has always been “The Good Samaritan”, a beautiful example of kindness and love.

Back to Biscuits…

Now‭ ‬on‭ ‬with‭ ‬ways‭ ‬to‭ ‬show‭ ‬Love.‭ ‬Also‭ ‬in‭ ‬my‭ ‬opinion,‭ ‬anytime‭ ‬you‭ ‬show‭ ‬love‭ ‬you‭ ‬are‭ ‬showing‭ ‬God‭’‬s‭ ‬love. ‭ ‬So‭ ‬if‭ ‬you‭ ‬wish‭ ‬to‭ ‬see‭ ‬this‭ ‬as‭ ‬a‭ ‬list‭ ‬of‭ ‬ways‭ ‬to‭ ‬show‭ ‬God‭’‬s‭ ‬love,‭ ‬that‭ ‬is‭ ‬fine‭ ‬or‭ ‬how‭ ‬to‭ ‬show‭ ‬love‭ ‬to‭ ‬humanity.‭ ‬However‭ ‬you‭ ‬wish‭ ‬to‭ ‬see‭ ‬it‭ ‬that‭ ‬allows‭ ‬you‭ ‬to‭ ‬accept‭ ‬the‭ ‬message‭ ‬attempting‭ ‬to‭ ‬be‭ ‬conveyed…..


It’s about sharing. You just give what you have to give wherever you go, and you let God handle the rest.
Lindsay Wagner

All the Same (Free Hugs) – Sick Puppies

1.‭ ‬Acceptance.‭ ‬I‭ ‬covered‭ ‬this‭ ‬way‭ ‬up‭ ‬at‭ ‬the‭ ‬beginning.‭ ‬Though‭ ‬acceptance‭ ‬means‭ ‬true‭ ‬acceptance‭ ‬without‭ ‬judgement.‭ ‬This‭ ‬means‭ ‬who‭ ‬you‭ ‬see‭ ‬before‭ ‬you‭ ‬is‭ ‬a‭ ‬human‭ ‬of‭ ‬equal‭ ‬stature‭ ‬and‭ ‬deserving‭ ‬of‭ ‬your‭ ‬attention‭ ‬and‭ ‬love.

2.‭ ‬Without‭ ‬Judgement.‭ ‬Remember,‭ ‬Jesus‭ ‬forgave‭ ‬the‭ ‬adulterous‭ ‬woman‭ ‬while‭ imparting the ideal that ‬those‭ ‬without‭ ‬sin‭ ‬cast‭ ‬the‭ ‬first‭ ‬stone‭ ‬to‭ ‬those‭ ‬that‭ ‬brought‭ ‬her‭ ‬before‭ ‬him.‭ ‬While‭ ‬it‭ ‬is‭ ‬true‭ ‬their‭ ‬intention‭ ‬was‭ ‬to‭ ‬cast‭ ‬doubt‭ ‬on‭ ‬his‭ ‬acceptance‭ ‬of‭ ‬the‭ ‬law.‭ ‬Jesus‭ ‬did‭ ‬not‭ ‬have‭ ‬to‭ ‬show‭ ‬compassion‭ ‬or‭ ‬forgiveness‭ ‬to‭ ‬the‭ ‬woman,‭ ‬but‭ ‬he‭ ‬did.‭ ‬With‭ ‬the‭ ‬simple‭ ‬utterance‭ ‬of‭ ‬sin‭ ‬no‭ ‬more. ‭ ‬Showing‭ ‬Christ‭’‬s‭ ‬love‭ ‬is‭ ‬acceptance and lack of judgement. I have talked with motorcyclist covered in tattoos that were the nicest of people and various other people that do not fit the norm of society view that turned out to be amazing people. The one perk to someone with a lot of tattoos, is you have something to open the conversation with. I generally notice a particular tattoo that I comment on or inquire about.


“I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university.”
― Albert Einstein

The Road You leave Behind you – David Lee Murphy

3.‭ H‬elping‭ H‬ands. ‭ ‬Whenever‭ ‬you‭ ‬can‭ ‬help‭ ‬someone.‭ ‬Even‭ ‬if‭ ‬that‭ ‬help‭ ‬does‭ ‬not‭ ‬seem‭ ‬like‭ ‬much‭ ‬to‭ ‬you.‭ ‬Even‭ ‬the‭ ‬smallest‭ ‬gesture‭ ‬of‭ ‬help‭ ‬can‭ ‬be‭ ‬a‭ ‬great‭ ‬gesture‭ ‬of‭ ‬love. There is a blog I read recently that talked about someone in line paying the blogger’s seventeen dollar grocery bill and giving them a hug.

 4.‭ ‬Kindness. ‭ ‬You‭ ‬can‭ ‬always‭ ‬be‭ ‬kind.‭ ‬I‭ ‬will‭ ‬not‭ ‬start‭ ‬on‭ ‬this‭ ‬one‭ ‬because‭ ‬well,‭ ‬first‭ ‬a‭ ‬previous‭ ‬blog‭ ‬covers‭ ‬this‭ ‬a‭ ‬little‭ ‬and‭ ‬well,‭ ‬I‭ ‬would‭ ‬get‭ ‬wordy‭ ‬about‭ ‬it.‭ ‬It‭ ‬is‭ ‬safe‭ ‬to‭ ‬say‭ ‬that‭ ‬I‭ ‬believe‭ ‬kindness‭ ‬is‭ ‬the‭ ‬greatest‭ ‬gesture‭ ‬of‭ ‬love‭ ‬you‭ ‬can‭ ‬show‭ ‬anyone.‭ ‬Even‭ ‬if‭ ‬you‭ ‬cannot‭ ‬offer‭ ‬them‭ ‬anything‭ ‬else,‭ ‬you‭ ‬can‭ ‬offer‭ ‬them‭ ‬kindness.


“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot,
Nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”
― Dr. Seuss, The Lorax

I saw God today – george strait

5.‭ ‬Smile. ‭ ‬Your‭ ‬smile‭ ‬can‭ ‬show‭ ‬so‭ ‬much‭ ‬love.‭ ‬Even‭ ‬if‭ ‬their‭ ‬is‭ ‬pain‭ ‬underneath‭ ‬that‭ ‬smile.‭ ‬Smile‭ ‬anyway.‭ ‬Someone‭ ‬else‭ ‬in‭ ‬pain‭ ‬might‭ ‬just‭ ‬need‭ ‬that‭ ‬smile.

6.‭ ‬Give‭ ‬people‭ ‬your‭ ‬attention. ‭ ‬In‭ ‬this‭ ‬tech‭ ‬age‭ ‬we‭ ‬can‭ ‬get‭ ‬so‭ ‬caught‭ ‬up‭ ‬in‭ ‬our‭ ‬tech.‭ ‬Just‭ ‬as‭ ‬today‭ when ‬I‭ ‬saw‭ ‬someone‭ ‬answer‭ ‬their‭ ‬phone‭ ‬while‭ ‬dealing‭ ‬with‭ ‬a‭ ‬cashier. ‭ ‬That‭ ‬call‭ ‬could‭ ‬have‭ ‬waited‭ ‬however‭ ‬long‭ ‬it‭ ‬takes‭ ‬to‭ ‬checkout.‭ ‬Instead‭ ‬ask‭ ‬how‭ ‬the‭ ‬cashier‭ ‬is,‭ ‬how‭ ‬their‭ ‬day‭ ‬is‭ ‬going.‭ ‬Give‭ ‬them‭ ‬your‭ ‬attention,‭ ‬not‭ ‬that‭ ‬device.‭ ‬You‭ ‬have‭ ‬a‭ ‬human‭ ‬in‭ ‬front‭ ‬of‭ ‬you,‭ ‬they‭ ‬deserve‭ ‬your‭ ‬attention.


Love is cheering and sharing and compassion and giving and receiving. Love is an action thing more than a word thing, that brings comfort or joy or relief to anyone or anything.
Ziggy Marley

God’s Will – Martina Mcbride

7.‭ ‬Respect.‭ ‬Love‭ ‬is‭ ‬all‭ ‬about‭ ‬respect.‭ ‬If‭ ‬for‭ ‬any‭ ‬other‭ ‬reason‭ ‬than‭ ‬you‭ ‬are‭ ‬dealing‭ ‬with‭ ‬another‭ ‬human.‭ ‬No‭ ‬matter‭ ‬how‭ ‬badly‭ ‬I‭ ‬have‭ ‬been‭ ‬treated,‭ ‬I‭ ‬always‭ ‬remember‭ ‬the‭ ‬person‭ ‬is‭ ‬at‭ ‬least‭ ‬deserving‭ ‬of‭ ‬respect‭ ‬as‭ ‬a‭ ‬human,‭ ‬maybe‭ ‬not‭ ‬a‭ ‬very‭ ‬good‭ ‬human‭ ‬at‭ ‬the‭ ‬moment‭ ‬of‭ ‬our‭ ‬interaction,‭ ‬but‭ ‬still‭ ‬a‭ ‬human,‭ ‬a‭ ‬creation‭ ‬of‭ ‬God. ‭ ‬We‭ ‬seem‭ ‬to‭ ‬get‭ ‬online‭ ‬then‭ ‬lose‭ ‬the‭ ‬respect‭ ‬aspect,‭ ‬but‭ ‬in‭ ‬my‭ ‬opinion‭ ‬online‭ ‬is‭ ‬where‭ respect is most needed.


8. ‭ ‬Listen‭ ‬to‭ ‬your‭ ‬inner‭ ‬voice.‭ ‬You‭ ‬know‭ ‬that‭ ‬voice‭ ‬that‭ ‬tells‭ ‬you‭ ‬or‭ ‬compels‭ ‬you‭ ‬to‭ ‬do‭ ‬something.‭ ‬You‭ ‬do‭ ‬not‭ ‬know‭ ‬why‭ ‬you‭ ‬feel‭ ‬compelled‭ ‬to‭ ‬pay‭ ‬for‭ ‬someone‭’‬s‭ ‬drink‭ ‬or‭ ‬go‭ ‬talk‭ ‬to‭ ‬someone,‭ ‬but‭ ‬for‭ ‬some‭ ‬reason‭ ‬you‭ ‬feel‭ ‬compelled‭ ‬to‭ ‬take‭ ‬a‭ ‬certain‭ ‬good‭ ‬action.‭ ‬You‭ ‬do‭ ‬not‭ ‬need‭ ‬to‭ ‬understand‭ ‬why‭ ‬you‭ ‬are‭ ‬being‭ ‬compelled,‭ ‬but‭ ‬you may just‭ ‬find‭ ‬out‭ along the way‬. ‭ ‬This‭ ‬is‭ ‬one‭ ‬area‭ ‬I‭ ‬have‭ ‬learned‭ ‬to‭ ‬just‭ ‬follow‭ ‬the‭ ‬compelling‭ ‬notion‭ ‬that‭ ‬strikes‭ ‬me.‭ ‬I‭ ‬learned‭ ‬not‭ ‬to‭ ‬question‭ ‬it,‭ ‬but‭ ‬you‭ ‬will‭ ‬find‭ ‬that‭ ‬some‭ ‬of‭ ‬your‭ ‬greatest‭ ‬gestures‭ ‬of‭ ‬love‭ ‬will‭ ‬come‭ ‬from‭ ‬following‭ ‬that‭ ‬voice.‭ ‬You‭ ‬can‭ ‬change‭ ‬a‭ ‬strangers‭ ‬day‭ ‬or‭ ‬possibly‭ ‬even‭ ‬life‭ ‬by‭ ‬following‭ ‬that‭ ‬compulsion‭ ‬to‭ ‬do‭ ‬something. ‭ ‬You‭ ‬may‭ ‬even‭ ‬renew‭ ‬their‭ ‬faith‭ ‬in‭ ‬humanity‭ ‬or‭ ‬God. ‭ ‬You‭ ‬may‭ ‬be‭ ‬answering‭ ‬someone‭ ‬else‭’‬s‭ ‬prayer‭ ‬without‭ ‬ever‭ ‬knowing‭ ‬it.‭ ‬Learn‭ ‬to‭ ‬listen‭ ‬to‭ ‬that‭ ‬voice.


We all have that inner voice that is wise, even if we don’t always follow it. It’s that voice I’m trying to listen to.
Ray LaMontagne

Angels among us – alabama

9.‭ ‬Be‭ ‬nice.‭ ‬This‭ ‬seems‭ ‬to‭ ‬go‭ ‬with‭ ‬the‭ ‬others such as‭ ‬respect,‭ ‬etc.‭ ‬But‭ ‬I‭ ‬made‭ ‬this‭ ‬separate,‭ ‬because‭ ‬I‭ ‬always‭ ‬try‭ ‬to‭ ‬be‭ ‬nice‭ ‬no‭ ‬matter‭ ‬what‭ ‬I‭ ‬am‭ ‬going‭ ‬through‭ ‬in‭ ‬my‭ ‬personal‭ ‬battles. ‭ ‬I‭ ‬try‭ ‬to‭ ‬smile‭ ‬if‭ ‬I‭ ‬can,‭ ‬there‭ ‬are‭ ‬days‭ ‬that‭ ‬mustering‭ ‬that‭ ‬smile‭ ‬is‭ ‬more‭ ‬challenging‭ ‬than‭ ‬others.‭ ‬I‭ ‬still‭ ‬hold‭ ‬the‭ ‬door‭ ‬open.‭ ‬I‭ ‬ask‭ ‬how‭ ‬someone‭ ‬else‭’‬s‭ ‬day‭ ‬is.‭ ‬My‭ ‬battles‭ ‬are‭ ‬my‭ ‬battles‭ ‬and‭ ‬those‭ ‬should‭ ‬not‭ ‬rollover‭ ‬to‭ ‬those‭ ‬I‭ ‬interact‭ ‬with‭ ‬in‭ ‬a‭ ‬mean‭ ‬way.‭ ‬If‭ ‬I‭ ‬believe‭ ‬I‭ ‬am‭ ‬so‭ ‬overwhelmed‭ ‬that‭ ‬I‭ ‬am‭ ‬going‭ ‬to‭ ‬be‭ ‬mean,‭ ‬I‭ ‬try‭ ‬to‭ ‬avoid‭ ‬interaction. ‭ ‬Remember,‭ ‬you‭ ‬never‭ ‬know‭ ‬the‭ ‬battles‭ ‬the‭ ‬other‭ ‬person‭ ‬is‭ ‬going‭ ‬through‭ ‬themselves. They‭ ‬do‭ ‬not‭ ‬deserve‭ ‬your‭ ‬meanness‭ ‬just‭ ‬because‭ ‬you‭ ‬have‭ ‬your own‭ ‬83‭ ‬problems‭ ‬as‭ ‬well. ‭ ‬This‭ ‬means‭ ‬being‭ ‬nice‭ ‬even‭ ‬if‭ ‬they‭ ‬are‭ ‬mean. Though‭ ‬it‭ ‬can‭ ‬be‭ ‬quite‭ ‬trying‭ ‬to‭ ‬accomplish‭ ‬pairing‭ ‬a‭ ‬bad‭ ‬day‭ ‬with‭ ‬someone‭ ‬else‭’‬s‭ ‬meanness‭ ‬but‭ ‬try‭ ‬to‭ ‬be‭ ‬nice.‭ ‬At‭ ‬least‭ ‬make‭ ‬the‭ ‬effort,‭ ‬then‭ ‬use‭ ‬the‭ L‬ouisville‭ ‬slugger if effort is not enough…um‭ ‬yeah‭ ‬ignore‭ ‬the‭ L‬ouisville‭ ‬slugger‭ ‬comment. 🙂 and remember….Grinches need love too.


“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.”
― Steve Maraboli,

 Father’s Love – George Strait

10. Understanding. “True love is born from understanding” stated the Buddha. When we attempt to understand someone else. To see things from their perspective, it enlightens us. Before my wife and I traveled to Nauvoo, Illinois one year for our anniversary; I spent time learning about Mormans and their faith. This way I would understand the customs and beliefs of the area I was traveling. This also allowed me to avoid offending anyone. By attempting to understand someone else you are touching on accepting, respect, and non-judgement, which in turn touches on Love. A quote from Aristotle that I love is “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” You can learn and understand something without having to change your own idealogy. You are merely gaining insight and understanding of someone else’s. Which helps love flourish.

11. Be vulnerable. Sometimes to show love you must open yourself up as well. You have to put yourself out there. You have to make yourself vulnerable. Sometimes being vulnerable and honest shows a great deal of love. It shows trust not just in someone else but in yourself. It also connects us. Love is connection so anything that brings connection opens the door to love. By opening the door it not only allows love to be shown but to be accepted by all those involved. I love brene brown talks. I really think watching at least her vulnerability talk is very important to view. She’s funny so don’t worry about it being dry. 😉


A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside.
Denis Waitley

Have a beer with Jesus – Thomas Rhett:


12.‭ ‬Allow‭ ‬yourself‭ ‬to‭ ‬feel‭ ‬love,‭ ‬experience‭ ‬love,‭ ‬and‭ ‬see‭ ‬it.‭ ‬If‭ ‬you‭ ‬want‭ ‬to‭ ‬share‭ ‬love,‭ ‬you‭ ‬have‭ ‬to‭ ‬feel‭ ‬it‭ ‬yourself.‭ ‬You‭ ‬have‭ ‬to‭ ‬accept‭ ‬the‭ ‬love‭ ‬given‭ ‬to‭ ‬you‭ ‬by‭ ‬others‭ ‬and‭ ‬allow‭ ‬yourself‭ ‬to‭ ‬experience‭ ‬it. ‭ ‬Allowing‭ ‬yourself‭ ‬to‭ ‬be‭ ‬deserving‭ ‬of‭ ‬love‭ ‬can‭ ‬allow‭ ‬you‭ ‬to‭ ‬give‭ ‬love. Only through love can you understand love.

13. Empathy. Many people are just looking for someone to try and understand what they are going through. Someone that gives them the feeling of genuine caring and knows how they feel or at least tries to understand how they feel. Showing empathy for our brothers and sisters that share this earth is one of the most genuine ways we can show love for them. To listen to them, show compassion, and let them know they are not alone.The first time I ever listened to this I cried when it came to the part of shame and men. Well everytime I listen to it I at least get teary eyed at that point, but the first time I had a good cry.


“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”
― William Shakespeare,

Moments – Emerson Drive

Thank‭ ‬you‭ ‬for‭ ‬your‭ ‬time. ‭ ‬Have‭ ‬a‭ ‬wonderful‭ ‬day. ‭ ‬I‭ ‬truly‭ ‬appreciate‭ ‬the‭ ‬fact‭ ‬that‭ ‬you‭ ‬took‭ ‬a‭ ‬moment‭ ‬to‭ ‬read‭ ‬this‭ ‬no‭ ‬matter‭ ‬what‭ ‬your‭ ‬opinion‭ ‬might‭ ‬be.‭ ‬I‭ ‬am‭ ‬just‭ ‬thankful‭ ‬you‭ ‬took‭ ‬time‭ ‬from‭ ‬your‭ ‬day‭ ‬to‭ ‬read‭ ‬it‭ ‬or‭ ‬skim‭ ‬it.‭ ;)‬


“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.”
– Dr. Seuss

Just as I am – alan jackson

and I believe 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 gives one of the best depictions of how we should love.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.


He has told you, O mortal, what is good;
    and what does the Lord require of you
but to do justice, and to love kindness,
    and to walk humbly with your God?

Micah 6:8

if you get a chance read this interesting blog entry by moved by love:


“OFFERING love is a mere gesture . . To become an ANGEL . . one needs to BE love . . for love is SEEN with the heart” – – Hans

From the Angels among us video by alabama above

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